2016 Was A Good Year?

For most, January is often a time of reflection and resolution and I am always happy to jump aboard the (inevitable) pain train. For the past couple of years, January started with statements like, “2014 2015 2016 is going to be MY year!” or “2014 2015 2016 is the year I REALLY figure my life out!” as well as hopes for the coming year that usually included a deep desire to feel more fulfilled, wishing I could accomplish more (even if I wasn’t quite sure what that was) and hoping this would be the year that it would all turn around for me.

In the week leading up to 2017, I listened to one of my favorite podcasts, The Joy Junkie with Amy E. Smith, and something clicked. Her How to Make Shit Happen in 2017 episode made me realize that it takes more than a good ‘ol wish and a prayer to achieve real change. I recognized that my previous ‘resolutions’ (as stated above) were blanket statements with no clear outline as to what they meant, no measurable ways of deciding whether or not I had achieved them and no clear timeline as to when I wanted to complete them by – all things that are necessary for success and lasting change. This year, my resolutions look similar (um, because who doesn’t want to have their best year EVER?) but I have clearly defined what that means to me and I have outlined specific things I can do to achieve them.

The biggest point I took away from the episode was that while most of us are all gung-ho about setting resolutions for the New Year, we hardly ever take a look back to congratulate ourselves on what we DID accomplish in the prior year. 2016 was a tough year for me – words like ‘challenging’ and ‘lonely’ come to mind. But after stopping and taking a minute to look back, I remembered I did a lot of cool shit and I did grow along the way. And that, my friends, shocked the hell out of me. What I thought had been ‘another year wasted’, truly wasn’t. Though it was tough and my life didn’t do a 180, I did make progress. I did move forward. But most importantly, I kept going.

For your viewing pleasure (in no particular order), here are some of my funn-est/proudest/happiest moments of 2016:

i took a couple of pretty cool vacations!
Miami for the SOBE Winefest!

Miami – SOBE Wine & Food Festival!

Nashville, TN

Nashville, TN – I’m always down to tag along on a friend’s work trip!

I chopped eight inches off my hair! #shorthairdontcare

Hair by Jessika at Salon Luis

I saw BeyoncÉ in concert…

…and cole swindell and florida georgia line and kenny chesney!

Chaperoned by some of the greatest people EVER.

I started going back to church.


For the first time in three years, I put up a Christmas tree…


…and sent a photo christmas card 🙂

So, yes. 2016 was good (even despite the bad). But 2017 and I are ready to show ’em who’s boss. And the best part is…it is all right on time.

Here. We. Go.

A trilogy of life-changing events: death, divorce and decade number three have had me toying with the idea to start this blog for over a year now. Why? Well, I didn’t really have a good answer for that question until a couple weeks ago when I happened to catch Gloria Steinem on Watch What Happens: Live with Andy Cohen (sidenote: LOVE HIM!). A viewer called in and asked Gloria what her biggest piece of advice was to women today. Her response: Find out who you are and follow it. This blog is my attempt at doing just that.

I made it through the last year and a half by surviving in the comfort of simplicity. However, over the past several months I have become uncomfortably comfortable. So, I’ve decided to mix it up a bit…

My goal is to come off cute and funny, though I’m sure some posts will be uncomfortable and awkward. I know some will sound a little (read: A LOT) bitchy and crass but I hope you will be able to see that deep down I am sweet with just a touch of sass! Ultimately, I promise to be relatable and honest. I hope you’ll join me in my adventures as I share my thoughts on everyday life with plenty of sarcasm, wit and realness.

Safe In Port

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